What our old parents demand from their family?
Amitabh Bachhan while conversion with the Shashi Kapoor in a movie said that “"Aaj mere paas building hai, property hai, bank balance hai, bangla hai, gaadi hai..kya hai kya hai tumhare pass?" The golden reply of Shashi Kapoor: "Mere paas maa hai."
These golden words give us a goosebump. As I told last day “https://www.abhiguru.com/2020/08/easy-tips-for-taking-care-of-elderly.html” that our parents are
living god on the earth. It is the only truth in the universe, and no one can
deny this fact. Due to the heavy workloads and work nowadays people never care
for their parents. We take them for granted. If we can’t worship these living
god then we don’t have the right to hurt them. By knowing or unknowingly means in
our daily lives we ignore our parents as they have turned old. Even the famous
mathematician Sakuntaladevi (human-computer) during her last days accepted that
she ignored her mother during her young age, but felt happy that her daughter
remained with her till her last breath. She told that besides having fame and
money she lacked love. She had some misunderstanding with her daughters in the early days, but at last, she denied all money and demanded her daughter’s love. She
was lucky to have her daughter back in her life. These examples make you realize
the importance of our parents. We the young generation with adrenaline rushing
in the blood work hard for the completion of our dreams forgetting the demands of parents
who had sacrificed their lives for our development. They did not demand the money,
property, or luxurious life, they only are hungry for our love. At the end of
the day, you may have the all riches but life without parents is like hell. “It’s
better to be the servant of the heaven at the feet of God (parents) than to be
the king of the hell”- Dr. A R Patil.
Today I am going to highlight some important part that one should not
ignore.
A) Depression- Many times a single parent faces many physical and psychological problems as
compared to the old couples. If any of the partners is ill then they understand and
do take care of each other. In the absence of a partner at old age, the elders
face many problems. They feel embraced (shy) in their own home that also in front of their own son or daughter
for the sake of basic needs. They even shy to ask for some food articles during lunch and
dinner. As a dietician, I would say that these people need extra food (in less
quantity but mostly) and they feel more hungry frequently as like your small
kid in your home. The life of a baby and old person is the same I believe. One is
without cognitive abilities and the other is lost due to the age factor. So it’s
your prior responsibility to look after their and don’t make it as the issue of depression.
These things are mostly not seen in the joint family but are observed in
nuclear families where the child is raised without relatives. Just look at the
minor needs of them and be with them, nothing more they will demand. As I told
in the previous article “https://www.abhiguru.com/2020/08/easy-tips-for-taking-care-of-elderly.html” you can maintain a simple dairy and do the work in that accordance. If not possible to interact
with elders daily, you can spare some time with them at weekends. You can plan
some surprises like a walk or outing with family. This will keep their body
working, as we know that if the machine is not working for a long time one day it
will lose its efficiency and get deteriorate. So don’t forget that human-being
is also a machine. So oil it and lubricate it. Your kind words with your parents
will work like lubrication.
In the next article, I will
come up with more exciting activities that will strengthen the bonds with your
elders (old mother-father). If you keep them mentally healthy this will decrease
the frequency of physical illness as we all know that our mind controls our body. Just remember that one day you too will become old.
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